8 Ways to Combat Mama Drama

As a member of the society of motherhood for nearly a decade, I’ve encountered a wide variety of social situations with other moms. Some of these meetings have been incredibly positive, uniting experiences, while others have been down right hostile… or led to people “actin’ ugly” as we say in the South. Issues that fuel the “Mommy Wars”, like Breastfeeding advocates clashing with formula feeders, or conflicting beliefs on how to discipline children, can lead to verbal face offs as fierce as any physical battle… these exchanges and the hard feelings that follow are what I call Mama Drama. Although I do feel strongly about my personal position on most parenting topics, I’ve come to realize that my allegiances to them don’t have to dictate who I’m friends with as a Mom. Time has shown me that I can still have a great relationship with those who think Cloth Diapering is disgusting or that I take being thrifty too far. Our connection comes down to the basic child-raising goals of most moms and the universal situations we experience while trying our hardest to succeed. I call them the Ultimate Goals of MommyHood. These include but aren’t limited to: A) We…

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MomPowers Episode 3 – Being Prepared; Like a Boy Scout on Steroids

By:Jessica Azar One of the most useful powers I’ve acquired is “Being Prepared” for life’s little emergencies…. Ok well it’s IMPOSSIBLE to truly be prepared for whatever occurs in the throes of child-wrangling… But I’ve learned to be a whole lot better prepared for things-that-could-and-very-well-may-happen. We learn to see potential in everything…. Potential opportunities for our kids, the potential greatness within our children waiting to be realized…. And potential disasters. On any given day, if you look in my purse (which is more of a Mary Poppins bag in a Vera Bradley Pattern disguise)you will find lollipops to reward/bribe/calm a kid down, band aids and antibiotic ointment (because someone WILL get a boo boo somehow if I don’t have them with me) hand sanitizer (for obvious reasons), a random Sippy cup, benedryl, tissues and the list goes on and on. In packing these things, I’m preparing for potential disasters, but also trying to ward them off by being ready. A Boy Scout would look like an ill-prepared, inexperienced slob next to most Moms…. And our preparedness is born out of disastrous experiences. One of the biggest surprises about having a baby for me was the sheer amount of junk that…

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MomPower Episode 2: Understanding Toddlerese

By:Jessica Azar Just when you think you’ve gotten the hang of Cryanese, get ready for your little one to introduce you to the exasperating world of Toddlerese. In addition to the crying, there are now hand gestures, beginning words and various glares thrown into the mix. On one hand, it’s a good thing, because it gives you more clues to figure out what they want, but on the other hand, it can make things even more complicated. Kind of like someone speaking a foreign language and giving you baseball signs at the same time. Good Luck understanding that! Pair this with their rapidly expanding interests and new boundaries and a low frustration level… Recipe for screaming (them) and exhaustion (You). Hopefully the tactics in this post will help you survive the Toddlerese phase in your child’s life. It’s difficult, but we as Moms begin to connect the dots of their demands with their signals. We learn that “Em Ade” means Lemonade… And that “Guh” means cup. We see that grabbing their ears can indicate ear pain… Their way of saying this HURTs. Fix it. When you finally do begin to understand their fledgling words and hand signals, you begin to…

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